Embracing different views on motherhood

By Brooke Brinker, Staff Writer

Motherhood—what a concept! For some women, it’s been a lifelong dream, creating a baby name list at the age of 13. For others, they’re still figuring out if they want to sign up for the chaos.

The view on motherhood is different for all. The truth is that there are diverse perspectives on what motherhood means to every woman.

Many women have known since the beginning when they saw their mom; they knew that what their mom was for them, was what they wanted to be when they grew up. Some girls have always had that dream in their hearts, hoping that it will be fulfilled. They view motherhood as a blessing and something that they desire.

Sherilyn Craig, a mom of five, said, “Motherhood was something I felt called to, a role that brought me joy and fulfillment.”

However, there are those women who wanted to have kids, but their minds changed over time.For some, the realities of motherhood—its challenges and demands—lead them to reconsider their desires. Other life experiences may also influence this shift in their dreams.

Moving forward, there are women who have always known that they didn’t want to be mothers from the start, and now that they are older, they still do not want to.

Every woman has their own opinion about motherhood and whether they want to make it a part of their life. For example, there are those who have always loved children and felt called in their hearts to be moms. There are also women who love children but don’t know if they want their own and all the responsibilities that come with it.

In today’s society, motherhood can be challenging because sometimes it feels like society has expectations for women and their perspectives on whether or not they want to become moms.

For the women whose dream is to be a mom, society judges them on their motivations, asking questions such as, “You know it’s not all sunshine and rainbows, right?” or “Don’t you want to do something for yourself first?”

For the women who do not want to become mothers, society holds equal criticism with judgmental comments, such as, “What will you do when you’re old and have no one to take care of you?” or “You’ll change your mind when you get older.”

Women with different perspectives on motherhood may not understand each other sides because they all see motherhood differently and, sometimes, can’t comprehend other womens’ diverse opinions on the matter. Nevertheless, it is crucial to be supportive and have empathy over their choices, and build and encourage each other up, no matter what.

Moms have one of the hardest jobs of all. Motherhood is truly amazing but comes with challenges. Sacrifices such as giving up on other passions to pursue motherhood, giving up time, and balancing your job and family life. These challenges can make someone not want to become a mother. Other women might not care about these difficulties and still want motherhood no matter what.

For the women who know that they want to be a mom in the future, don’t let people discourage you, keep following that desire in your heart. One day, that dream will come true, and it will be a true blessing.

For the women who have mixed feelings of motherhood, and you are not sure if you want to become a mom. Do not let the critical comments get to you, and do not let society confuse you. You have so much time to figure out if you want to join in on motherhood.